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Recently, a client of mine asked what my personal approach to accountability is.
It took me a while to truly find a solid answer to this question. The truth is, I am highly disciplined. If I set out to do something, I do it. I do not have a hard time sticking to my goals. However, it hasn’t always been this way…
In high school, I did the bare minimum to get by. I loved sports but can’t say I ever REALLY gave them my full effort. I hated school and did everything possible to cut corners and slide by. Spark notes, cheating on homework & tests, you name it.
My first year of college I think my GPA was about a 2.0. Again, not giving any sort of effort to school. Just doing enough to ‘get by’. I’d go to the gym here and there (basically to go on the elliptical for 10 min then lay on the mat and pretend to do abs lol) but nothing consistent and I always had plans to start on Monday.
Then, at the beginning of my sophomore year I did a 360 with exercise, nutrition and school. 3 years later, I graduated Magna Cum Laude, exercised 5 days a week and routinely ate well.
Over the years, I’ve given a lot of thought to what propelled this change in me and I’ve really never had a clear answer until I sat down to write this.
You see, up until 19 years old, I had lived my entire life in my comfort zone. And when I made that realization, it clicked what it was…. I was sick of being the same. I was sick of being average in all areas of my life.
I wanted to stand out, I wanted to impress others with my looks, my strength, my health and my knowledge. And yes, this reason was %100 for external validation (I mean I was 19 years old haha).
I’ll be the first to tell you that’s a terrible reason to start something but bear with me.
The recognition from professors, praise from fellow females, increased attention from men, I got all of that.
But that’s not what kept me motivated to continue. I realized very quickly none of that actually meant anything to me.
What I ended up learning was that I could do hard things.
And when I do hard things I get better.
I get smarter, I get stronger, I get healthier.
But not for anyone else…..
You see, the attention from others was exciting at first but it quickly faded when I realized the true gifts I had given myself.
I gained POWER, I gained CONTROL, I gained CONFIDENCE.
And when I got these things, I knew I never wanted to lose them.
So I didn’t stop.
What motivates me now is fear. Fear that if I stop challenging myself I will stay the same.
Complacency is death to me.
I never want to not feel powerful, not feel strong and not feel capable. I never want to stop unlocking that next level.
And that is why I CHOOSE to challenge my body and give it proper nutrition. I CHOOSE to never stop learning. I CHOOSE to be in control of my goddamn life.
Because when you choose those things, you become unstoppable. You realize that anything you want is at the mercy of your choices.
You can choose to be consistent with the actions that align with your goals OR you can choose to throw in the towel when things get hard / you make a mistake. The only thing getting in your way is you.
Accept responsibility and understand that it’s not going to be easy.
Most importantly, realize that staying loyal to the promises you make yourself will be the most significant and empowering thing you’ve ever done.